I have been planning to write this post for months now but never quite got around to it..
I got some comments from serious faces asking if I’m dead.
Courteous readers, please accept my sincere apologies for not informing about any upcoming changes. As you all know, life has some uncanny ways that we sometimes have to strike off something from the list or hold off for a while.
The following will explain the missing pages of my blog.
Not many people here know about my anxiety of meeting new people. Well, I had met many new faces, felt uncomfortable, and got used to speaking to them regularly until it became light and easy. Also, most importantly, I have found true friendships who are like- minded in terms of
- living clean,
- eating right,
- strength and beauty inside and out,
- have family, kids,
- have a vegetable garden,
- have realistic goals,
- have fun attaining them,
- feeling grateful for what we have and who we have in our lives,
- serving with a warm smile,
- listening to others in need,
- adding value to people’s lives,
- influencing and empowering the lives of many.
I crossed path with an excellent super hero mindset person called Merly who is passionate about having clean and healthy lifestyle and educating & empowering the community. Her ideas of life, passions and goals have attracted a good bunch of people like me.
There is one person who constantly supports and motivates even while I’m caught up in something else. I thank my dear husband for believing in myself, reminding me of things like blogging I’m passionate about.
If you’re a person dealing with this anxiety, I would say as Larina will.
- Start with a small group. As you start to have conversations, you will know you’re getting better with every meetups and then as you stay comfortable, move to a bigger group.
- Find out who you are comfortable talking to. Is he/she younger or older to you?
- After you choose that person, tell him/her that you are a bit anxious to get along with people and you feel the person is warm and friendly to you; if she likes to have a cuppa sometime. I’m sure she will be happy to help.
- During the meetup over coffee, introduce yourself; say what you’re passionate about. You will get lot more from that person’s experience too. When both persons are authentic and caring, anxiety fades away. That person might introduce you to another person or you might share the same passions like joining a book club or go for a swim. And there you have your old friend and new acquaintances and you start to feel at ease. You are now not alone.
- Take one day at a time while pushing your boundaries.
- Look back at your journey from where you started. Embrace your memories. They are a part of you. There will be chances for you to pay it forward.
I’m grateful to have Merly and Larina who helped me along the way and I’m more than happy to give a hand to someone who wants to break the mould.